A close friend of mine has four grown daughters. These days it seems that they are always after her about the things she says. One of them told her how negative she is, another said “Do you ever listen to yourself? Always saying be careful, or don’t do this, or watch out”.
The third daughter told my friend she was going to buy her a wooden spoon since she likes to stir things up with the family. Then to top it off, the fourth daughter said she didn’t say some things her mother was sure she said and accused the mom of saying some nasty things that my friend doesn’t remember saying.
Sorry if this sounds confusing, but I don’t know how I should respond. My friend has always been known for her cheerful disposition and all of these recent comments have her wondering if she is beginning to show signs of Alzeimers. She has become more forgetful lately and sometimes gets weepy for no reason. But that could be part of getting older.
I intend to do an Internet search for symptoms, but if my friend is in the early stages of that awful disease, I’m not sure how I should proceed. How would you handle it?
the best way to know about your friends feelings is to see a Doctor who knows all the symptoms of people.
The easiest thing for me to say is Google Alzeimers, but here is a link outside the norm that you may find useful:
http://alzeimers.wordpress.com.....mers-care/
Thanks Bill, for the link. Alzheimers is such an unusual disease. One minute the person sounds quite normal, the next they are telling you they had a good run through the clover this morning (although they are bedridden). I often wonder which is worse – physically sound but mentally not, or mentally sound but physically handicapped? I think the first is harder on the people who love them, and the second on the person themselves.
I have one relative who reverted back to being a naughty child and another who is in mid stage of the disease and while not on medication becomes paranoid and hallucinates. Either way,it is very difficult for the immediate families [caregivers] especially in the latter case where grandchildren and great grandchildren are taking care of her because she does not wish to move to another location.